In … responding to a believer who sought a deeper
understanding on the reference to the father being regarded as head of the
family, a letter written on behalf of the House of Justice stated:
As you point out in your letter, the Universal House of
Justice has stated that, by inference from a number of responsibilities placed
upon him, the father can be regarded as the “head” of the family. However, this
term does not have the same meaning as that used generally. Rather, a new
meaning should be sought in the light of the principle of the equality between
men and women, and of statements of the Universal House of Justice that neither
husband nor wife should ever unjustly dominate the other. The House of Justice
has stated previously, in response to a question from a believer, that use of
the term “head” “does not confer superiority upon the husband, nor does it give
him special rights to undermine the rights of the other members of the family”.
It has also stated that if agreement cannot be reached following loving
consultation, “there are times … when a wife should defer to her husband, and
times when a husband should defer to his wife, but neither should ever unjustly
dominate the other”; this is in marked contrast to the conventional usage of
the term “head” with which is associated, frequently, the unfettered right of
making decisions when agreement cannot be reached between husband and wife.
- The Universal House of Justice (From a letter dated 15 July 1993 written on behalf of the Universal House of
Justice to an individual believer; compilation: ‘Family Life’, prepared by the
Research Department of the Universal House of Justice, March 2008)