He was sorry to hear of the inharmony and unhappiness which
has arisen in your home, and he assures you he will pray for its removal.
He suggests to you that perhaps you are not giving your
husband enough of your love, physically and spiritually, to keep his interest
centred in you. Marriage problems are often very involved and subtle, and we
Bahá'ís, being enlightened and progressive people, should not hesitate, if it
seems necessary or desirable, to turn to science for help in such matters. If
you and your husband talked over your problems -- together or separately --
with a good physician you might find that you can cure your own husband, or at
least try to do so. It is a great pity that two believers, united in this
glorious Cause, and blessed with a family, should not be able to live together
really harmoniously, and he feels you should take constructive action and not
allow the situation to get worse. When the shadow of separation hangs over a
husband and wife they should leave no stone unturned in their effort to avert
its becoming a reality.
He urges you both to devote more of your time to teaching
the Cause and to pray together that Bahá'u'lláh may give you a real and lasting
love for each other. (From a letter dated 5 July 1949 written on behalf of
Shoghi Effendi to an individual believer; The Compilation of Compilations, vol.
I, Preserving Baha’i Marriages)
