In considering the problems that you and your wife are
experiencing, the House of Justice points out that the unity of your family
should take priority over any other consideration. Bahá'u'lláh came to bring
unity to the world, and a fundamental unity is that of the family. Therefore,
we must believe that the Faith is intended to strengthen the family, not weaken
it. For example, service to the Cause should not produce neglect of the family.
It is important for you to arrange your time so that your family life is
harmonious and your household receives the attention it requires.
Bahá'u'lláh also stressed the importance of consultation. We
should not think this worthwhile method of seeking solutions is confined to the
administrative institutions of the Cause. Family consultation employing full
and frank discussion, and animated by awareness of the need for moderation and
balance, can be the panacea for domestic conflict. Wives should not attempt to
dominate their husbands, nor husbands their wives....
(From a letter dated 1
August 1978 written on behalf of the Universal House of Justice to an
individual believer; The Compilation of Compilations, vol. I, Preserving Baha’i
Marriages)
