Marriage creates family. And the sound relationships that
are to bind members of a Bahá’í family are based on justice and reciprocity.
Each member must receive the rights due; each must fulfil the responsibilities
owed. “According to the teachings of Bahá’u’lláh the family, being a human
unit, must be educated according to the rules of sanctity”, ‘Abdu’l-Bahá
explains. “The integrity of the family bond must be constantly considered, and
the rights of the individual members must not be transgressed.” These sound
relationships among family members require conscious cultivation.
In the Bahá’í family, the married couple are true partners;
one is not subordinated to the other. Together they navigate life’s
challenges—whether spiritual, material, or social—through prayer, study,
consultation, and reflection on action. Consider, for example, decisions
pertaining to the education of children. The Bahá’í Writings acknowledge the
mother as the first educator of the child and uphold her prerogatives in this
regard. As ‘Abdu’l-Bahá observes, “truly it is the mothers who determine the happiness,
the future greatness, the courteous ways and learning and judgement, the
understanding and the faith of their little ones.” Yet, the father also bears
responsibility for their education and upbringing, and cannot abdicate such a
vital duty and leave it to the mother alone. And while, to support the mother
in this role and ensure she is not disadvantaged by it, the father bears a
corollary obligation to support the family financially, this does not mean
roles are inflexibly fixed. Based on their understanding of the Teachings, the
couple determine the best way to manage the family’s affairs in response to
different personal and social circumstances. Each stage of married life will
present corresponding challenges and opportunities a couple must strive to
manage, cooperatively and effectively, while ensuring both the wife and
husband’s spiritual, intellectual, and professional progress.
- The Universal
House of Justice (From a message dated 19 March 2025 to the Bahá’ís of the
World; online Baha’i Reference Library of the Baha’i World Center)